Hugs

As I doubt many people even read my notes, I don't feel remorse in typing anything. There is just something I don't understand about human interaction: the hug. It is one of the only things engaged in between people who're casual friends and lovers alike. But why is this? Well, it depends on the type of hug. You see, there is the casual just, nice to see you hug that usually involves the people touching for no longer than two seconds. This is one that is done mostly by just casual friends. Then, there is the even more casual hug, or the half-hug. This is where one person puts one arm around another person's side, and not much is meant by this hug. It is nothing more than a recognition of one's friendship for another. However, there are different types of friend hugs, across genders. For instance, when two guys hug, especially if they're family or the same age, there is almost always a high-five, pats on the back, or slight rubs on the back. When two females hug however, it is more just an upper-body hug, as there is really not a whole lot of effort put fourth b/c it is such a common thing.

But, I have already discussed some of what cross-gender hugging involves and the different types, however, these hugs can still be awkward. This happens when the hug receiver receives a hug from someone whom they're not very close to or otherwise does not want to receive a hug from. There is an exception to this, though, as there are some guys who hug all the girls they say hello or goodbye to and it isn't ever awkward. These are more flirtatious or sexy guys though, and the hug is usually accompanied by a thought of 'what if...?' However, most guys can only hug certain friends at certain times. And even then they have to be careful; personally I think that the former group of guys has it lucky, but there's nothing I can do about it.

The hugs that are engaged in between lovers, or even just people who feel mutual attraction greater than friendship for each other, is greatly different. This is more of a full-on embrace and may take anywhere from just a few second to a few minutes, and perhaps involve other things like a kiss or an exchange of 'I love you's. These are the most awkward hugs to watch, but the most comfortable to be a part of. As other hugs can leave someone with a thought of 'what if', these hugs usually leave someone with a thought of 'I'll see you later', or 'last night was fun'. Either way, these are certainly the most amorous type of hugs.

However, there is another type of hug that is the most necessary to human existence. This is what I like to call, the needed hug. This phenomena occurs when an individual experiences hardship, like a break up, or an argument or some other thing and has unresolved feeling of anger or animosity. The person is then in the stage of needing a hug. If this person doesn't get a hug, these mal thoughts can continue and nothing good comes of the situation. However, if the person does get a hug, a casual friend hug will not do. This person requires a longer, more personal embrace, and it should be given to them thusly. Don't skimp on the hugs people. Most of the time that someone needs a hug tears have been shed, so for the love of love people, if someone says I need a hug, grab them tight and don't be reluctant ot oblige them.